4 Do’s and 2 Don’ts in Body Language

How to seem more powerful using tricky poses.



“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

You shouldn’t be perfect to feel confident, but if you are confident, you will feel perfect. You could show your confidence through some messages you send by your body movements, but how would these messages positively impact others?

4 Do’s:

1. Arms crossed behind the head and leaning backwards.

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This pose signifies power and independence. It’s also preferable if you’re about to propose a Big Idea.

2. Chest puffed out, hands on hips, and standing with feet hip-width apart.

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During this pose, you could raise up your chin to speak with a feeling of great strength. It’s a very good trick to avoid feeling anxious while talking to a boss or people in a higher position.

3. Hands on table and leaning forward.

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This posture is perfect for ending a presentation or a negotiation. It shows you’re concerned about the issue. Moreover, it makes the person you’re talking to more open to listening to your thoughts.

4. Arm rested on the back of a chair and keeping knees apart.

This is the best posture to project confidence, and it can even comfort you during a job interview.

These 4 poses are called high-power poses. All high-power poses make you feel bigger, thus, more powerful and confident. Generally, the high-power poses are expanded and relaxed ones.


2 Don’ts:

1. Arms crossed over chest.

If you sit like this while your shoulders are rolled forward, it shows that you’re weak and sends a message that you’re scared. Whereas if it’s done with your back straightened and relaxed, it shows strength.

2. Touching the neck, hand on lap, and looking down.

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This pose is a sign of anxiety or lack of control, and it is considered the lowest power pose among them all. Furthermore, it gives signals that you’re uncertain of what you’re saying or even lying. Try your best to avoid any of these postures.

These 2 poses are called low-power poses. They are considered more closed off and secured.


Research found that people with high-power poses showed an 8% increase in testosterone, while  the ones with low-power poses had a 10% decrease in it. Also, high-power posers experienced a 25% decrease in their stress levels, while low-power posers had a 15% increase in them. As the testosterone gets higher in men and women’s bodies, they feel more confident. Therefore, lower stress levels decrease anxiety and manage stress.

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Football players perform these specific movements before their matches, not only to stretch their muscles, but also to provide themselves with strength and motivation.

“Which comes first; chicken or egg?” The concept of this dilemma is found in body language too as psychologists argue, “Which comes first; feelings or expressions?”. Some believe that if you feel happy, then you’ll smile. On the other hand, others believe that even if you’re sad but smile, then you’ll feel happy. According to the previous research, the second group are right to relate this dilemma to body movements. So yes, you could fake it until youbecomeit.

References:
Carney, Dana, Amy Cuddy, and Andy Yap. “Power Posing: Brief Nonverbal Displays Affect Neuendocrine Levels and Risk Tolerance.” Association for Psychological Science. NewYork: Psychological Science OnlineFirst, 2010.