How to help a depressed person?

Do you know someone who suffers from depression and don't know how to offer him/her a helping hand? Do you suffer from depression yourself?



Depression is not an occasional sadness or sorrow, it’s way more than that. If you noticed that your friend is suffering from depression, here are some key steps that could help you to help him/her or any other depressed person around.

Tell your friend that depression is NOT shameful:

Assure him/her that depression isn’t a flaw of character, but an actual change in his/her psychology. It’s a psychological disorder that should be treated just like any other illness not a disgrace to hide.

Listen more:

Always have the will and the patience to listen to a depressed person. Never judge him/her no matter how foolish his/her thoughts may seem to be. Show him/her interest in every minor detail he/she is saying. Be there in their worse and try your best to get them to reach their best.

Praise your friend:

Depressed people tend to be harsh on themselves seeing only what’s ugly within them. Remind them that they are precious, important and definitely one of a kind. Constantly, point out their good deeds. Tell him/her that you accept him/her just the way he/she is. Most importantly, help them accept themselves just the way they are and love it because it’s definitely worth loving.

Talk him/her out of it:

If you noticed him/her talking about how life can be worthless or how they wish for death to come upon them,don’t sit there doing nothing. Suicide is a huge risk a person could face while being depressed. So, try to remove everything that could be used in self-harm. If you’re staying with that person in the same house, please contact the emergency lines whenever you find any evidence of self-harm.

Support him/her spiritually:

Depression could actually be treated by religious support beside the required medical treatments. Help them restore their faith in God and life.

Suggest going to a psychiatrist:

A psychiatrist would be a very good solution to help the depressed to recover. It’s not just about opening up to someone and talking to him/her about your problems but also it’s about getting a right helpful reply that can help the healing process which can only be achieved by a specialist.

Contact his/her psychiatrist yourself:

The psychiatrist could help by providing you with great tips on how to deal with a depressed person.

Medications only?

Medications is not an exclusive solution neither is it an ultimate cure. Medications won’t help the depressed to face his/her problems. Medications won’t let him/her look to situations differently. Medications won’t allow him/her to burst his/her feelings out.

Be patient:

Be patient with the depressed because he/she needs so much time to recover and relapse is very common. Don’t hold grudges no matter how cruel or mean the depressed person could be.

Care about yourself:

Give yourself some time to take a break. Hearing continuous complains about life could let you down, so pamper yourself and remember that you’re helping a friend in need and try not to turn to a person in need yourself.

What is nice to say?

You are not alone in this. I’m here for you.
You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change.
I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.
When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold on for just one more day, hour, minute—whatever you can manage.

You are important to me. Your life is important to me.

Tell me what I can do now to help you.

 

What you should AVOID saying?

It’s all in your head.
We all go through times like this.
Look on the bright side.
You have so much to live for, why do you want to die?
I can’t do anything about your situation.
Just snap out of it.
What’s wrong with you?

Shouldn’t you be better by now?

Please never hesitate to help your depressed friend to cope and help him/her to recover easily.


References:
“Depression: Overview.” 
National Center for Biotechnology Information. U.S. National Library of Medicine, 12 Jan. 2017. Web. 07 Nov. 2017. <https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0072469/>.
“Depression: Supporting a Family Member or Friend.” Mayo Clinic. Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, 06 Aug. 2015. Web. 07 Nov. 2017. <https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in-depth/depression/art-20045943?pg=1>.
“How To Help Someone In Crisis.” Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA). Web. 07 Nov. 2017. <http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=help_crisis>.