Edited by: Nada Shaheen
It seems that people are never satisfied with the over prestigious compliments they get from social media with its spectrum of applications. Although they still manage to find new ways to grasp more of those over the top comments, they will, surprisingly, still get mad if a negative confession popped up somewhere between the submitted words.
Some gossip-creating sites have appeared and caused a predictable fuss all over the internet, like ask.fm, curious cat, but those are oldies compared to the new-to-the-list, Sarahaa. Just enter this word in the search box and your search results will be flooded with screenshots and tweets of confessions.
The previously mentioned sites, although having the same concept, that is willingly having your privacy intruded, have different versions or ways to submit the confession. For example, ask.fm is all about simply asking questions to the user either anonymously or revealing your identity if you want and it’s up to the user to answer or to even show the question. It’s quite similar to curious cat where they both give some freedom for both sides.
As for Sarahaa, this one completely diminished the user’s ability to give his/her opinion on the words sent to him/her, where the person submitting the confession can say whatever he/she wants, either anonymously or not, and having the user unable to respond.
Well, where’s the problem with that?
According to the person confessing, the only convincing driving reason for them saying their opinion through this site is mainly fear, and if I can add, cowardness. Not only for not being able to say these words face to face and instead throwing them to a virtual place but for also feeling protected by the veil of anonymousness provided by these sorts of apps.
Even if your intentions are good and you are just trying to compliment someone, think about the situation in real-life and picture the face of that person brightening up when they hear those words rather than reading them off of a screen quickly to check the next. Isn’t it a better way to be remembered?
As for the users receiving the words themselves, why the continuous search for approval from strangers and anonymous people? Why seek masked and even two-faced words?
Reasons justifying this need could perhaps be the lack of expressing feelings and exchanging genuine opinions between close friends and relatives. A shortage of appreciation and support from family could also be a motive to dig for these feelings between the words of strangers.
However, these online compliments’ ravishing effect will, sadly, only last temporarily and keep you thriving for more. Add to that the destructive criticism that you will face; for if this criticism is taken seriously, it might lead to inconvenient feuds and unexplainable tension, and as for people with low self-esteem, it could be of a demolishing effect. And honestly, our society is not ready for extra psychological issues, self-confidence lacking individuals and, God forbid, more bullies than we already have.
All in all, apart from the charged and gossip-filled atmosphere these sites bring, they could be self-confidence annihilating tools and a fertile soil for social drama.